It’s 1am on a Thursday night and several hundred twenty- and thirty-somethings are crammed into a ballroom in East Williamsburg. The lights hanging from the fifty-foot ceilings flash red as a male dancer clad in a black bandana and suspenders picks up Swedish pop star Tove Lo. In the bar area outside, amid a stream of sheer mesh tops and thigh-revealing shorts, is Brenda Breathnach, the Irish owner of 3 Dollar Bill, New York’s biggest queer club.  Breathnach, 60, is just back from Miami. Moishe Mana, the billionaire developer who revamped New York’s once-run-down meatpacking district, asked her to consider…